Learning to Live in Growing Orbits

Live in Growing Orbits

Let an expert take you by the hand and teach you how to Live in the Here and Now. — to Live in Grow­ing Orbits!

You’ve found this page because you are ready to take affirmative action. You’re ready to devote time and energy into being the best possible human you can be.

I’d like to help you walk your path, and I offer you both hope and a guar­an­tee.

One year from today, hav­ing com­plet­ed Liv­ing Life in Grow­ing Orbits, you’ll be joy­ful­ly liv­ing in this end­less moment, free from attach­ments to the past, free from wor­ry regard­ing the future!


This book was orig­i­nal­ly designed as a work­book for my coun­selling clients.

New­ly revised, Liv­ing Life in Grow­ing Orbits is avail­able as either a paper­back or a Kin­dle book– and is designed to help you actu­al­ly enact ideas such as:

  • find­ing your lim­it­ing beliefs
  • open­ing your mind, heart, and soul
  • learn­ing to speak with clar­i­ty and direct­ness

Liv­ing Life in Grow­ing Orbits pro­vides you with the guid­ance you need. It’s a year-long exer­cise in see­ing and sim­ply being.

The Concept

We’ve all been con­di­tioned by our cul­ture and upbring­ing to have pre­con­ceived notions:

  • about how the world works,
  • about who we are,
  • about how to relate to oth­ers, and espe­cial­ly,
  • about what we are capa­ble of.

Perhaps it is closer to the truth to say we’ve been trained to stay stuck – we have learned what we are not capable of.

Most peo­ple are liv­ing exam­ples of the adage, “Argue for your lim­i­ta­tions, and they are yours.”

Living Life in Growing Orbits provides you with tools for breaking free from your limitations.

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Review

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Wayne Allen is an insight­ful writer. From his var­ied life expe­ri­ence, he blends spir­i­tu­al prin­ci­ples with every­day val­ues, mak­ing for a read­able, thought pro­vok­ing blend of sto­ries and ideas. Fore­most, Wayne is very human .… and this comes through in his writ­ing. This book would be of val­ue to any­one who is gen­uine­ly inter­est­ed in find­ing deep­er mean­ings in life and rela­tion­ships. You can read it all at once, or sip it in small quan­ti­ties.
High­ly rec­om­mend­ed.


~ Ben­net Wong & Jock McK­een

Co-founders, The Haven Insti­tute

Liv­ing Life in Grow­ing Orbits

Living Life in Growing Orbits

Available formats:

* Paperback, 229 pages
** E-book digital downloads
** PDF Download

* Pub­lish­er: The Phoenix Cen­tre Press (Revised Decem­ber 2015)
* Lan­guage: Eng­lish
ISBN: 978–0-9877192–7-0

Detailed Infor­ma­tionSam­ple Pages


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Paperback: $20.00, E-book digital downloads $2.99, PDF Download $4.00

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How to Find Your Perfect Partner

Find out how creating a “List of 50,” will help you to find your perfect partner, and get exactly the relationship you want.


Most peo­ple think find­ing the right per­son should “just hap­pen.” They depend on “the luck of the draw,” and typ­i­cal­ly end up with the next bozo in line.

The “cure” is a focused, clear, and direct approach to the whole “find­ing a part­ner” enter­prise. It requires thought, per­sis­tence, and log­ic.

You must learn how to focus in on get­ting what you want, as opposed to set­tling for “almost, but not quite.”

Rather than leave any of this to chance, I devel­oped
The List of 50.

The List of 50” is the key to finding Your Perfect Partner.

Here is what else you will discover once you get your hands on this book:

  • prac­ti­cal, step-by-step ways to do what works and to stop doing what doesn’t when it comes to find­ing a new rela­tion­ship.
  • the inside val­i­da­tion exer­cise – how to con­di­tion your­self to do the oppo­site of what peo­ple in failed rela­tion­ships do time and time again
  • three cul­tur­al myths that get in the way of rela­tion­ship suc­cess
  • Are you in love? How to tell the dif­fer­ence between lust and the real thing
  • the data fil­ter­ing prin­ci­ple – the rea­son you keep get­ting into dead-end rela­tion­ships (and how to change this for­ev­er)
  • why “tak­ing your chances” is the worst way of find­ing your ide­al part­ner (and you’ll dis­cov­er a much bet­ter alter­na­tive)
  • how to ‘police the lan­guage’ in your List of 50 – ways to say what you want, clear­ly and specif­i­cal­ly
  • are you real­ly ready for a new rela­tion­ship? Your answer may sur­prise you!
  • Why friends are good mod­els for lovers

Click here for reviews, and to read a sample chapter!

Available formats: Find Your Perfect Partner

* Paperback book, 140 pages, ** Kindle download

* Pub­lish­er: The Phoenix Cen­tre Press (Decem­ber 2012)
* Lan­guage: Eng­lish
* ISBN: 978–09877192-1–8


Purchase Options

Paperback: $20.00, Kindle edition $2.99

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The Bedrock of Great Relationships

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What is The Bedrock of Great Relationships?

It’s the will­ing­ness to com­mu­ni­cate who you are, where you are, and what’s up for you… all the time!

And especially when you don’t want to!

My book, The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever. is both a learn­ing tool, and a step-by-step guide — a plan you will imple­ment — to chart the new direc­tion in your life and rela­tion­ship.


  • Are You Ready For A Mean­ing­ful Rela­tion­ship?
  • Do You Want to Know How to Keep Your Rela­tion­ship Fresh and Alive?
  • Won­der­ing How to Devel­op and Nour­ish a Deep and Mean­ing­ful Rela­tion­ship?

If you are confused about your relationship, just follow this detailed, step-by-step guide for creating The. Best. Relationship. Ever.

Read this com­pre­hen­sive guide and learn how to recon­nect, strength­en your rela­tion­ship, improve com­mu­ni­ca­tion, deep­en inti­ma­cy, and more.

You’ll find easy-to-do exercises designed to get your relationship on track!

The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever. has the per­fect mix of the­o­ry and prac­tice. It’ll help you to imple­ment the 9 essen­tial tools for ele­gant, inti­mate relat­ing. You’ll learn how to com­mu­ni­cate effec­tive­ly and deeply, and you’ll be intro­duced to sen­su­al­i­ty exer­cis­es designed to get you in touch with your deep­est pas­sions. Do what is sug­gest­ed, and you’ll see results!

A user friendly guide to cure your relationship — great relationships are built on these techniques.

  • The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever. is a valu­able tool for those who want to improve their rela­tion­ship. Full of tips and use­ful infor­ma­tion, you’ll learn to make your rela­tion­ship exact­ly as you want it to be.
  • Learn­ing the prin­ci­ples described in this book will help you to keep your rela­tion­ship alive, mean­ing­ful, ful­fill­ing, and excit­ing.
  • This book teach­es the nuts and bolts of build­ing and main­tain­ing a great rela­tion­ship.
    • You’ll learn to stop look­ing out­side of your­self, either for res­cue, or to blame.
    • You’ll learn to take respon­si­bil­i­ty and own­er­ship for your part, and only your part, of what hap­pens in the rela­tion­ship.
    • You’ll dis­cov­er how to com­mu­ni­cate with clar­i­ty and curiosity, and how to con­tin­ue deep­en­ing your rela­tion­ship over time.

Most help­ful read­er reviews:
“Read­ing this book is like hav­ing a pri­vate ses­sion… The book is prac­ti­cal, straight­for­ward and clear… An excel­lent intro­duc­tion to a life of per­son­al devel­op­ment and mean­ing.” — Ben­net Wong, MD, Jock McK­een, MD

Wayne draws upon ele­gance, self-respon­si­bil­i­ty and unabashed hon­esty as the cor­ner­stones for pow­er­ful and inti­mate rela­tion­ships… Writ­ten with sto­ries, case exam­ples and sug­ges­tions.” — Debashis Dut­ta, MSW


As you read, you will:

  • learn 8 rea­sons you’ve failed at relat­ing — we exam­ine what goes wrong.
  • dis­cov­er 3 prob­lems peo­ple have with com­mu­ni­ca­tion — once you know what doesn’t work, you’re ready for what does!
  • meet Sam and Sal­ly, and learn how to real­ly mess up a rela­tion­ship! — you see their mis-steps, and learn from them.
  • find out how “labelling” your part­ner gets in the way of Ele­gant, Inti­mate Relat­ing. You’ll see that Ele­gant, Inti­mate Relat­ing means no judg­ing and blam­ing.
  • learn a brand new mod­el for being in rela­tion­ship. I call this Ele­gant, Inti­mate Relat­ing
  • dis­cov­er the rules and prac­tice of dia­logue. Each con­ver­sa­tion is wor­thy of doing well!
  • find out what to do, and when. You’ll have the tools you need, right in front of you.

Want to know more? Click here!