The Bedrock of Great Relationships

great relationships

What is The Bedrock of Great Relationships?

It’s the will­ing­ness to com­mu­ni­cate who you are, where you are, and what’s up for you… all the time!

And especially when you don’t want to!

My book, The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever. is both a learn­ing tool, and a step-by-step guide — a plan you will imple­ment — to chart the new direc­tion in your life and rela­tion­ship.


  • Are You Ready For A Mean­ing­ful Rela­tion­ship?
  • Do You Want to Know How to Keep Your Rela­tion­ship Fresh and Alive?
  • Won­der­ing How to Devel­op and Nour­ish a Deep and Mean­ing­ful Rela­tion­ship?

If you are confused about your relationship, just follow this detailed, step-by-step guide for creating The. Best. Relationship. Ever.

Read this com­pre­hen­sive guide and learn how to recon­nect, strength­en your rela­tion­ship, improve com­mu­ni­ca­tion, deep­en inti­ma­cy, and more.

You’ll find easy-to-do exercises designed to get your relationship on track!

The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever. has the per­fect mix of the­o­ry and prac­tice. It’ll help you to imple­ment the 9 essen­tial tools for ele­gant, inti­mate relat­ing. You’ll learn how to com­mu­ni­cate effec­tive­ly and deeply, and you’ll be intro­duced to sen­su­al­i­ty exer­cis­es designed to get you in touch with your deep­est pas­sions. Do what is sug­gest­ed, and you’ll see results!

A user friendly guide to cure your relationship — great relationships are built on these techniques.

  • The. Best. Rela­tion­ship. Ever. is a valu­able tool for those who want to improve their rela­tion­ship. Full of tips and use­ful infor­ma­tion, you’ll learn to make your rela­tion­ship exact­ly as you want it to be.
  • Learn­ing the prin­ci­ples described in this book will help you to keep your rela­tion­ship alive, mean­ing­ful, ful­fill­ing, and excit­ing.
  • This book teach­es the nuts and bolts of build­ing and main­tain­ing a great rela­tion­ship.
    • You’ll learn to stop look­ing out­side of your­self, either for res­cue, or to blame.
    • You’ll learn to take respon­si­bil­i­ty and own­er­ship for your part, and only your part, of what hap­pens in the rela­tion­ship.
    • You’ll dis­cov­er how to com­mu­ni­cate with clar­i­ty and curiosity, and how to con­tin­ue deep­en­ing your rela­tion­ship over time.

Most help­ful read­er reviews:
“Read­ing this book is like hav­ing a pri­vate ses­sion… The book is prac­ti­cal, straight­for­ward and clear… An excel­lent intro­duc­tion to a life of per­son­al devel­op­ment and mean­ing.” — Ben­net Wong, MD, Jock McK­een, MD

Wayne draws upon ele­gance, self-respon­si­bil­i­ty and unabashed hon­esty as the cor­ner­stones for pow­er­ful and inti­mate rela­tion­ships… Writ­ten with sto­ries, case exam­ples and sug­ges­tions.” — Debashis Dut­ta, MSW


As you read, you will:

  • learn 8 rea­sons you’ve failed at relat­ing — we exam­ine what goes wrong.
  • dis­cov­er 3 prob­lems peo­ple have with com­mu­ni­ca­tion — once you know what doesn’t work, you’re ready for what does!
  • meet Sam and Sal­ly, and learn how to real­ly mess up a rela­tion­ship! — you see their mis-steps, and learn from them.
  • find out how “labelling” your part­ner gets in the way of Ele­gant, Inti­mate Relat­ing. You’ll see that Ele­gant, Inti­mate Relat­ing means no judg­ing and blam­ing.
  • learn a brand new mod­el for being in rela­tion­ship. I call this Ele­gant, Inti­mate Relat­ing
  • dis­cov­er the rules and prac­tice of dia­logue. Each con­ver­sa­tion is wor­thy of doing well!
  • find out what to do, and when. You’ll have the tools you need, right in front of you.

Want to know more? Click here!

Live an Amazing Life

I’ve recent­ly re-edit­ed and added to my first and favourite book, This End­less Moment. It’s been a peren­ni­al best sell­er, and many are the folk who have found it life-chang­ing.

Please, think about how things are going for you, and if you think your life could be more amazing, have a look below for a few quotes, then order the book, either as a paperback or an e-book.

Clients come in for ther­a­py because some­thing (or sev­er­al some­things) isn’t work­ing. Yet, on an entire­ly dif­fer­ent lev­el (and the point of this book)—the real issue is not what isn’t work­ing. The real issue is that they don’t under­stand that solv­ing their issue requires that they behave dif­fer­ent­ly.

There is an inter­nal bat­tle going on in each of us, between the seduc­tive siren song of stay­ing stuck in the “way I’ve always done life” and the order­ly dis­ci­pline of doing things in anoth­er way.

Most peo­ple waste their lives doing every­thing they can think of to get oth­ers to do things dif­fer­ent­ly. There is a con­sid­er­able emo­tion­al invest­ment in this effort. (Let me be clear about which effort we are talk­ing about: the effort of try­ing to get the world to coop­er­ate in mak­ing you hap­py. Now, “the world” can be a boss, a part­ner, one’s par­ents or kids, your friends… or even the per­son serv­ing you a dou­ble fat-free lat­te.)

The first step toward wis­dom is to under­stand that you can’t manip­u­late oth­ers or the world to make you hap­py.

In a sense, all that I ever “teach” clients (and all I ever remind myself) is this: I am respon­si­ble for me, and I am respon­si­ble for how I choose to approach my life. Noth­ing else is going on. This is such a sim­ple point that it flies direct­ly over the head of 95 per cent of the pop­u­la­tion.

You will learn the practicalities of living a full and rich life:

Notice what would hap­pen if we under­stood that the world actu­al­ly is phe­nom­e­nal, that it is a series of uncon­nect­ed and non-mean­ing­ful events. We would have to admit that a thing is a thing is a thing, until we make mean­ing about it. To do this requires a leap in our under­stand­ing. The leap is summed up this way: the mean­ing I make about the essen­tial­ly mean­ing­less is mean­ing­ful only to me.

On relationships:

In oth­er words, healthy rela­tion­ships are phys­i­cal­ly expres­sive rela­tion­ships. If I am avoid­ing phys­i­cal con­tact with my part­ner, I am in effect say­ing, “I refuse to make con­tact with you.” The refusal may seem to play out phys­i­cal­ly, but that sim­ply rep­re­sents what’s going on at all the oth­er lev­els — emo­tion­al­ly, spir­i­tu­al­ly, and in the couple’s “cou­ple-ness.”

On life:

I’d like to sug­gest to you that life is meant to be an ongo­ing devel­op­men­tal project. This is a con­cept we accept at work — we “glad­ly” train and retrain, look­ing for improve­ments, effi­cien­cies, oth­er, new­er, “bet­ter” ways to do things. I sus­pect we were meant to be on a sim­i­lar walk in our per­son­al lives, but some­how for­got.

Other thoughts:

At the end of the day, this is the real­i­ty of life. We are born and die alone, and the rest of life is a solo job in a crowd. This is either ter­ri­fy­ing or free­ing. I’ll scare myself with it pre­cise­ly to the degree that I refuse to accept respon­si­bil­i­ty for my life. I will free myself pre­cise­ly to the degree that I allow myself the per­son­al sat­is­fac­tion of pad­dling just a lit­tle more effi­cient­ly and effort­less­ly each day.

And here is the point!

In the end.. you’ll find your­self liv­ing out your life in a con­scious, present, hon­est, and curi­ous way. You’ll take what comes with­out judg­ment and decide what you choose to do next. You will be con­sis­tent and clear. And you will be that most unusu­al (yet not spe­cial) of all humans- a self-respon­si­ble per­son, engaged in liv­ing life to the fullest, while extend­ing an invi­ta­tion to oth­ers to join you in the pad­dle, the dance.


This book will change your life. Have a look!!

More Infor­ma­tion, ReviewsSam­ple Chap­ter Oth­er For­mats

Available formats, This Endless Moment, 2nd edition

* Paperback: 226 pages ** Kindle edition ** PDF download

* Pub­lish­er: The Phoenix Cen­tre Press (Jan­u­ary 30, 2017)
* Lan­guage: Eng­lish
* ISBN: 978–0-9877192–9-4

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Zen — An Alternative to Trump

Sometimes, having another approach to life is crucial.

OK, so the world is a pret­ty weird place right now, and liv­ing with the ten­sion of “not know­ing” (how Zen!!) can be a bit much.

It’s why I wrote Half Asleep in the Buddha Hall.

It’s hard to believe that a sim­ple book has prac­ti­cal, down-to-earth meth­ods and approach­es that will help you not only to cope, but to thrive. I want to assure you that Half Asleep in the Bud­dha Hall brings you into direct con­tact with the wis­dom of the East, and espe­cial­ly the light of Zen.

You’ll discover how to find wisdom and depth.
The Zen stories guide you in a new and powerful direction.

The book is lib­er­al­ly sprin­kled with teach­ing sto­ries, and exam­ples and lessons from my 30 years of Coun­selling expe­ri­ence.

You are able to see and do — you dis­cov­er a way of being in the world that is both pow­er­ful and gen­tle.


There’s really only one way out —
you have to begin the only adventure worth your time and effort —
the adventure of being wholly and fully yourself!

In Zen, we speak of dis­ci­pline. The key dis­ci­pline is ‘non-fol­low­ing,’ or non-attach­ment. You let each non-help­ful thought go by not cling­ing to it. Now, of course, as with Beth, such thoughts will arise until you die.

Fol­low­ing such thoughts leads to paral­y­sis by analy­sis. This paral­y­sis seems inevitable, until I notice that repeat­ing dys­func­tion­al thought pat­terns caus­es the paral­y­sis. I am ‘lost in thought,’ and the cure is to stop myself—not by more think­ing, but by act­ing. Less thought, more action. Remem­ber: you cause your­self prob­lems by over-think­ing and under-doing. Pick a way to be, and then just be it. Swing for the fences, let­ting the crit­i­cal thoughts fade into back­ground noise.

If you’d like to read a ton of reviews or have a look at a sam­ple chap­ter, we have you cov­ered. Give this a click!


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Revised for 2017 — This Endless Moment

A new version of This Endless Moment is coming soon!

This Endless Moment

Just a quick­ie announce­ment that I’m almost done with the final edit of a revised ver­sion of This End­less Moment, my first and most pop­u­lar book.


This End­less Moment is an amaz­ing book on liv­ing the enlight­ened life. A peren­ni­al best-sell­er, and used as a text­book for new ther­a­pists, this book quite sim­ply changes lives. I’ve received count­less thank you’s from sat­is­fied read­ers, who have used the meth­ods described in the book and found real peace and deep­er life mean­ing.

I started the rewrite in May, and expect it to be available by February.
(And this is me, adding in that, indeed, the book became available in January of 2017. Check out This Endless Moment 2nd. edition here!)

I’ve added 60 or so pages, as well as a bunch of exer­cis­es, and mod­ern­ized the lan­guage. I want­ed an already excel­lent book to be even more help­ful.

I think you’ll like it! Stay posted!

Learn to Deal with Mind Chatter

The Watcher

As many of you know, I write a week­ly blog called The Path­less Path.

Recent­ly, a read­er wrote a ques­tion about for­give­ness, and in the process of writ­ing a response, I decid­ed to include a link to a book­let I’d writ­ten.

The booklet is called, “The Watcher.” I wrote it back in 2000, and it’s all about dealing with mind chatter — with the negative voices we all have in our heads.

It used to be that I thought I sim­ply got depressed (sort of like one catch­es a cold-it hap­pened to me.) Back before 1982, when my super­vi­sor gave me an assignment-choose!-I’d have told you there was absolute­ly noth­ing I could do to con­trol my tem­per and my tongue.

Thanks to imple­ment­ing her sug­ges­tion, I learned sev­er­al things:

  1. my tem­per and my moods are as much a part of me as my beau­ti­ful, deep blue eyes.
  2. What I choose to do with my moods and my tem­per depends on the breadth of my belief sys­tem and my will­ing­ness to chal­lenge my self-per­­cep­­tion.
  3. And emphat­i­cal­ly, choos­ing dif­fer­ent­ly is about the amount of self-dis­­­ci­­pline I am will­ing to exert.

Any­way, I had a good look at the book­let, and decid­ed that it need­ed a rewrite — a new­er for­mat, some punch­ing up, etc. As I looked fur­ther, I decid­ed a full rewrite was in order. A week lat­er, I was done!

As with all of our book­lets, this one is free. (You can also make a con­tri­bu­tion to our work, but it’s not nec­es­sary.)

Just click the image above, or click here. This link also has the intro­duc­to­ry chap­ter for you to check out.

Enjoy!

Living Life in Growing Orbits is revised!

Living Life in Growing Orbits

My book, Living Life in Growing Orbits: 52 Weeks to Wholeness is freshly revised and available both as a paperback and a Kindle book.

Liv­ing Life in Grow­ing Orbits: 52 Weeks to Whole­ness is a Work­book for peo­ple seek­ing clar­i­ty and focus.

In an often con­fus­ing world, pure, sim­ple, and focused guid­ance is required. Liv­ing Life in Grow­ing Orbits is a guide­book for dis­cov­er­ing who you are, and more, impor­tant­ly, the tool you need to become ful­ly your­self.

• If you are won­der­ing what, specif­i­cal­ly, to do to learn more about who you are, who you might be, and about your place in the world, this book is for you.

• If you have read books on whole­ness, per­son­al respon­si­bil­i­ty, or spir­i­tu­al insight, and then have won­dered, “What’s next?” — this book is for you.

• If you seek whole­ness, but are unclear on how to begin , this book is for you.

• If you want ele­gant, day-by-day guid­ance to main­tain a prac­tice designed to open your eyes, your heart, your mind and Spir­it, this book is for you!

In 52 weeks, you will have found direc­tion and pur­pose, as you explore the mean­ing of cen­tered, mean­ing-filled, and “present” liv­ing. With week­ly thoughts, and dai­ly med­i­ta­tions and projects, Liv­ing Life in Grow­ing Orbits: 52 Weeks to Whole­ness will change your life.