The ultimate guide to being present

The ultimate guide to being present


This Endless Moment presents a simple, direct, and clear secret for unlocking your full potential.

In my book,This Endless Moment, you will discover

~ ways to enter the peace and contentment of "pedal to the metal" living

~ tools for deepening your relationships, having great sexual experiences, and

~ how to live with passion, curiosity and excitement!


Dear Friend,

I'm Wayne C. Allen.

I started working with clients in my counselling practice in 1982. They were sad, hurting, on the verge of a relationship break-up. It was my "vocation" to help them get their lives back.

I want to share what I taught them with you!

I'll help you to:

    • have a rich, full and meaningful life.
I will show you how to:

    • have the deep and intimate relationship you have dreamed of.

To begin with, there are two things you need to know.

    • First and foremost, no matter how difficult your life has been up until now, you can turn things around!

Knowing how to have a strong, clear, meaning-packed life is not automatic – but it can be learned!

    • Second, what you need to learn is: how to live your life with deep richness and full passion – truly another way of being.

You will discover another, positive, self-caring and self-affirming way of living your life…guaranteed!

I'm sure you're curious, so I'll tell you more. But first, be excited!! You are taking your first step on the authentic path to self-awareness and deep relationship!

Here are a few things I'm "guessing" about you:

    • You are intelligent.
    • You have a career that you value, and are sensing some "burnout."
    • If you are in relationship, you are not happy. You feel unfulfilled, scattered, confused.
    • Growing up, you were told that if you had a career, and a family, and followed the rules, you would be successful, content, and happy.

However… you do not feel successful. You feel deep disappointment.

    • You were told that doing what everyone else was doing would lead to a contented life.

However… you do not feel contented. You feel bored, unfulfilled and confused. You might even think that you have been betrayed.

    • You've done all the right things, and have gotten all the "wrong things" in return.

Believe me, you are not alone!

My clients were also tired of the same old relationships,
the same situations cropping up again and again.

You know the feeling: stuck in the middle, not sure what to do next.

Well, you are about to learn about the only way to shift from where you are to where you want to be!

If you really want to live the life you have dreamed of, have meaningful and deep relationships, and make a real difference in the world, you need This Endless Moment. The book is filled with cutting edge approaches to living a fulfilled, enlightened and passionate life!

I wrote This Endless Moment because I had seen my clients blossom using these techniques! In fact, the book was their idea!

They wrote, they called, they stopped me on the street - to tell me about how their lives had changed. They urged me to write down what I'd taught them.

In fact, they demanded it!

This Endless Moment is helping my readers to create new, exciting ways to live life and to make responsible decisions – (continued below!)



Wayne Allen has taken important complex concepts and has expressed them in an accessible and practical way. His very personal approach is remarkable. This is an excellent, readable book. We're impressed!

~ Bennet Wong & Jock McKeen
Co-founders,  The Haven Institute


Author and psychotherapist Wayne Allen spent nearly two years writing This Endless Moment. The purpose of this book is to help people change their lives for the better. This Zen-ish style book is well-written and is filled with many significant insights that will give you a more clear picture of who you are and how to get what you want from life.

The tone is casual, sprinkled with humour, and full of lessons you'll wish you knew long ago.

I've learned from it, and anytime a book teaches you at least one worthwhile thing you didn't know, it is well worth the price. You'll get your money's worth.

~ Dennis "Boogie Jack" Gaskill


A profoundly simple approach to life that even the most skeptical types would have trouble arguing. I enjoyed the matter-of-fact writing style, short chapters and 'thought for the day' anecdotes.

I was never bored with the content, thanks to your quirky sense of humour and your ability to always bring the reader back to the point of self-responsibility and 'owning it'.

This book is great read for those who want to begin a new path but don't have a clue how to begin, and equally great for those who believe they actually "know it all."
A bit of hand-holding was a nice touch with the guide at the end to give the reader one less excuse to avoid making changes.

~ Katharine Phillips


I have finished your book and wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed it. I loved how it was so straight to the point - called it without creeping around - and so was able to cover an incredible amount in a short space. It really felt as if you were talking to me - and accepting no excuses, but with humour and compassion!
I particularly liked the section on romance, love and compassion, which put things in a way that I'd not seen before and made SO much sense! I found the whole book refreshing after the psycho-babble and repetitive stuff I've read before.

It was also very thought - or rather action - provoking and was exactly the right thing for me right now. Thank you so much for writing it.

~ M. Reid


I was teary this morning and in just such a crappy place feeling sorry for myself about something. I downloaded your book This Endless Moment and printed it off. By page 4 I was hooked, by page 12 I was chuckling and had a smile in my cheeks for the rest of the book--which I read in one sitting. Awesome, awesome, and SO perfect for where I am in my deconstruction process. I am a Havenite and will certainly take in your course in the future. Thanks for writing such an excellent book.

~With warmth, Ellen


I have finished reading This Endless Moment. It's the first round. I definitely will read it again. I enjoy reading your stories and examples.

Your book reinforces my belief about taking personal responsibility for anything that goes around in my life. Whatever has happened won't change things and each one of us must think and act differently to expect different results.

I like this question. "Who are you today?" I'm going to start asking myself each night. Wonder how many roles I play each day.

Probably would ask some friends and see their "blank" reactions.

Sex and touching are two subjects that we usually don't express openly in my culture and upbringing. But I'm glad that I am able to ask for hugs when I feel like having one. But I don't always get one.

To sum it up for now, there's so much to unlearn and relearn after reading your book. It makes me realized that I have not been reading and learning enough yet.

Thanks a lot, Wayne.

~ Fatimah Musa

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Available formats, This Endless Moment

* Paperback: 115 pages ** Kindle edition ** PDF download

* Publisher: The Phoenix Centre Press (November 1, 2004)
* Language: English
* ISBN: 0968444628

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Recently, I got a card from a former client:

 As I navigate through life's adventures, occasionally a flash of what we discussed or I experienced/felt surfaces and becomes timely (or timeless!) The flash (as well as other insights) provide further material for deepening my understanding of a present circumstance, relationship, paradox.
These awarenesses are treasures as I become less defensive and more curious!
Susan Gallagher

This Endless Moment is all about helping you to discover the breadth and depth of life that Susan has discovered.

So, I hear you asking, what's in the book, and why is it so special?

This Endless Moment is a practical guide to living the kind of life you imagine for yourself.

You will discover:

    • 5 ways to take ownership of your life and decisions
    • why it's important to live continuously "in the moment," as you let go of the past
    • 3 ways to communicate effectively, deeply and intimately
    • how to figure out if it's lust and love—and why this is vital for a great relationship
    • how to deepen your passion for life ... and for your partner
    • tools and techniques to relieve tension and distraction
    • how the happiest people have found peace and contentment
    • ways to have an excellent, meaningful life
    • how to stop waiting and start living right now
    • how to embrace your uniqueness, and
    • how to be comfortable in your own skin

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...Wayne Allen sent me one of his books to help me through my grieving.

It's called "This Endless Moment" and confronts you with the stark reality that you decide what anything means in your life.

He says in his Zen-ish book, "Everything is a figment of your imagination." I love the reminder. It puts the responsibility for your well-being where it belongs: Inside.

~ Dr. Joe Vitale


I wanted to tell you that I thought your book was FANTASTIC. I devoured it and thought it was really one of the best things I've read in ages. I'd like to get 5 more copies for friends and family for Christmas.

Congratulations Wayne - I hope you are pleased. It says sooooo much in a concise, easy to read, humorous way. I just loved it. It was especially pleasing as I've heard the messages for years, and can just hear your voice and see your expressions. Thanks for giving me and others such a great gift.

~ Julie Redfern


After reading your excerpts on the website I could hardly wait to receive it and begin my journey. This is a book I know I will read over again. It is a confirmation of what I have learned in therapy over the years and a great reminder. You had a review somewhere on the website that I read stating " I heard your voice telling me this when I was with you in counselling", and that has been my experience so far. I hear echoes of my mentors and therapist as I read. I want to thank you for writing your book and sharing your knowledge and experience on your website.

I am a constant visitor of the Phoenix Centre from home and work.

Thanks so much for being there!

~ Marilyn Beatty


I purchased 2 copies of your printed book This Endless Moment before Xmas, and a friend is devouring it, as I did, and then passed it on.
My most precious piece, was your suggestion about beginning to measure the progress of my life. Yes, I did that in my business, but not in other personal growth areas.

Also, thought I would mention how my thoughts were taking me down the self pity and anger road, so I came back to your book and your web pages. Amazing how my perspective changed, and how much better the rest of world is now! Thanks for saying like it is and putting the how to's at the end of the book.

~ Jean Eyre


Wayne's writings are a reminder to us that responsible living requires patience, effort, dedication, and care. His use of humour, stories and casualness throughout the text makes it feel like a conversation with a wise, gentle friend. The lessons might be tough but the rewards are . . . living fully.

Profound in its simplicity.

~ Debashis Dutta, professor
Human Services Foundation Program
Conestoga College, Kitchener, Canada


Wayne has managed to capture aspects of human and relational dilemmas in succinct and often humorous ways. He is relentless with his objective that we own our responsibility for our selves rather than waiting for the "world" to provide-and blaming it when it doesn't. I know Wayne as a man who lives the talk, except when he doesn't - great laughs for both of us on such occasions.

This little book is packed with wisdom.

Of course it only works when practiced, rather than merely the reading of it.

~ Gloria Taylor, psychotherapist
Kitchener, Ontario, Canada


Wayne Allen writes as he speaks and as he lives - with startlingly direct and challenging wisdom. He also teaches with great compassion. When he writes, for instance, quot;Have a breath and get over yourself," he does so not flippantly or dismissively, but with the deep desire that we learn to live well and wholeheartedly.

This small, powerful book could change lives.

~ Lucy Reid, chaplain
University of Guelph
Guelph, Ontario, Canada

This Endless Moment is "endlessly" direct and clear. As I write in the Preface -


Clients come in for therapy because something isn't working (or several somethings aren't). Yet, on an entirely different level (and the point of this book), the real issue is not what isn't working. The real issue is that they don't understand that solving their issue requires that they behave differently.

There is an internal battle going on in each of us, between the seductive siren song of staying stuck in the "way I've always done life" and the orderly discipline of doing things in another

Most people waste their lives doing everything they can think of to get others to do things differently. There is a considerable emotional investment in this effort. (Let me be clear about which effort we are talking about: the effort of trying to get the world to cooperate in making you happy. Now "the world" can be a boss, or a partner, one's parents or kids, friends, or the person serving you a double fat-free latte.)

The first step toward wisdom is to understand that you can't manipulate others or the world to make you happy.

In a sense, all that I ever "teach" clients (and all I ever remind myself) is this: I am responsible for me, and I am responsible for how I choose to approach my life. Nothing else is going on. This is such a simple point that it flies directly over the head of 95 per cent of the population.

You will learn the practicalities of living a full and rich life:

Notice what would happen if we understood that the world actually is phenomenal, that it is a series of unconnected and non-meaningful events. We would have to admit that a thing is a thing is a thing, until we make meaning about it. To do this requires a leap in our understanding. The leap is summed up this way: the meaning I make about the essentially meaningless is meaningful only to me. [pg.2]

On relationships:

In other words, healthy relationships are physically expressive relationships. If I am avoiding physical contact with my partner, I am in effect saying, "I refuse to make contact with you." The refusal may seem to play out physically, but that simply represents what's going on at all the other levels - emotionally, spiritually, and in the couple's "couple-ness."[pg. 15]

On life:

I'd like to suggest to you that life is meant to be an ongoing developmental project. This is a concept we accept at work - we "gladly" train and retrain, looking for improvements, efficiencies, other, newer, "better" ways to do things. I suspect we were meant to be on a similar walk in our personal lives, but somehow forgot. [pg. 17]

Other thoughts:

At the end of the day, this is the reality of life. We are born and die alone, and the rest of life is a solo job in a crowd. This is either terrifying or freeing. I'll scare myself with it precisely to the degree that I refuse to accept responsibility for my life. I will free myself precisely to the degree that I allow myself the personal satisfaction of paddling just a little more efficiently and effortlessly each day. [pg. 47]

And here is the point!

In the end.. you'll find yourself living out your life in a conscious, present, honest, and curious way. You'll take what comes without judgment and decide what you choose to do next. You will be consistent and clear. And you will be that most unusual (yet not special) of all humans- a self-responsible person, engaged in living life to the fullest, while extending an invitation to others to join you in the paddle, the dance. [pg. 50]

My goal is to support you on your walk, to help you find peace and satisfaction - and most importantly, to help you to have the kind of fulfilling, rich and meaningful life you want.

Our 133 page book will change your life.


The next move is up to you.

I've shown you that purchasing This Endless Moment is as risk-free as an offer can come. You and I both know that if you've read this far in the letter, you're seriously interested in changing your life. All that's left to do now is take action.

Available formats, This Endless Moment

* Paperback: 115 pages ** Kindle edition ** PDF download

* Publisher: The Phoenix Centre Press (November 1, 2004)
* Language: English
* ISBN: 0968444628

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Paperback: $20.00, Kindle edition $2.99,
PDF download $4.00 Audio Book (mp3) $20.00


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I could go on and on with reasons to purchase This Endless Moment, but here's the point: You need to prove to yourself that you can experience your own personal miracle.

Do it today!


wayne c allen

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